If the fires of passion in your marriage have been reduced nearly to embers, then you are not alone. One of the most common problems that can damage a marriage is the loss of spark…or spice, or whatever you like to call it. It’s really not so easy to get yourself or your partner “in the mood" once you have become very familiar with each other. Of course, it’s wonderful to be familiar with your spouse because familiarity is the basis of intimacy. But intimacy is not the same as passion, is it? Routine is the culprit. If the proper countermeasures are not deployed against routine’s assault on your relationship, then it will drain all the passion right out of your marriage. Routine is a tenacious killer of passion…a suspect in the deaths of over 1 million steamy romances. I know routine comes in very handy for showers and oil changes, but it has no place in the bedroom. Fight it! Fight boredom and routine! It’s going to take a little effort to rekindle those flames, but armed with the right tactics you will succeed! Some of the ideas I will mention may seem rather basic, and most are simple and easy. Just try them. You have already begun to make more of an effort by reading this article; now don’t just think about how nice it would be to do some of these things with your spouse…the only way for this to happen is for you to take action!
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How to win your spouse back
It's true that men and women are very different creatures. If you want to learn how to win your spouse back, it is imperative that you fully understand what went wrong. You may find it hard to believe, but almost any relationship/marriage is salvageable. It does not matter what situation you are in right now. There are methods available, some extremely simple, that can put your relationship on the right track again. Without even knowing it, many couples start tearing down their relationship from the very beginning. Well, usually not from the very beginning because there is always that period of romance when we are on our best behavior and the sun rises and sets on that special person in our lives.
Eventually life's stresses and hardships get in the way and the magic seems, well a little less magic. Reality of every day life sets in. Schedules are often hectic, especially if there are children involved. If communicating turns into arguments and battling one another is a daily or even weekly scene, you owe it to yourselves to find a way to change. This might be difficult when egos, selfishness and just plain being stubbornness gets in the way. Seeking alternatives to a divorce should be your number one objective. Many couples have bounced back from troubled relationships that include infidelity, excessive fighting, children issues, not enough quality time, unresolved conflicts, problems revolving around sex or money and more.
We all know that marriage should be a partnership. It is a team where two people work together for the good of their family. Standing behind your partner 100% and building them up rather than tearing them down is crucial. That does not mean that one should give up their goals or be a doormat. Both individuals need to treat each other with respect and be fortified with the knowledge that your mate will be there for you. This goes way beyond "love". Always remember that painful words spoken to one another can never really be taken back. You have enormous power to change your actions and attitudes that will undoubtedly change the dynamics of your marriage.
We all want to fall or be in love and know without a shadow of a doubt that our spouse will always be there for us. Our spouse should be our number one cheerleader. Here are 5 tips to help build a strong marriage:
1. Schedule time together. No television or cell phones. Just listen and talk to each other.
2. Plan a date night at least once a month.
3. Make your spouse a number one priority. This is hard when you also have jobs and children to deal with. There are many little things one can do in a day to let their spouse know that they are important.
4. Strive to have meals together.
5. Make time for intimacy. Nothing binds couples together more than physical intimacy.
If your marriage is already in danger of divorce, starting these tips now may not be possible or even the answer to your problems. However, I want to reiterate that it is never too late to build a strong relationship and bring it back from the brink of disaster. Work is needed on both sides, but you can learn how to win your spouse back no matter how difficult the situation is. Change the vicious cycle that started your marriage down the path of destruction.
Please know that couples do this everyday. Take the very important first step to find out what is needed to save your marriage or relationship and make it even stronger than you ever thought possible. Take care and rest easy knowing there is help for you. I wish I had this resource years ago. I strongly urge you to learn how to win your spouse back.
By Cathi Zimmerman
Eventually life's stresses and hardships get in the way and the magic seems, well a little less magic. Reality of every day life sets in. Schedules are often hectic, especially if there are children involved. If communicating turns into arguments and battling one another is a daily or even weekly scene, you owe it to yourselves to find a way to change. This might be difficult when egos, selfishness and just plain being stubbornness gets in the way. Seeking alternatives to a divorce should be your number one objective. Many couples have bounced back from troubled relationships that include infidelity, excessive fighting, children issues, not enough quality time, unresolved conflicts, problems revolving around sex or money and more.
We all know that marriage should be a partnership. It is a team where two people work together for the good of their family. Standing behind your partner 100% and building them up rather than tearing them down is crucial. That does not mean that one should give up their goals or be a doormat. Both individuals need to treat each other with respect and be fortified with the knowledge that your mate will be there for you. This goes way beyond "love". Always remember that painful words spoken to one another can never really be taken back. You have enormous power to change your actions and attitudes that will undoubtedly change the dynamics of your marriage.
We all want to fall or be in love and know without a shadow of a doubt that our spouse will always be there for us. Our spouse should be our number one cheerleader. Here are 5 tips to help build a strong marriage:
1. Schedule time together. No television or cell phones. Just listen and talk to each other.
2. Plan a date night at least once a month.
3. Make your spouse a number one priority. This is hard when you also have jobs and children to deal with. There are many little things one can do in a day to let their spouse know that they are important.
4. Strive to have meals together.
5. Make time for intimacy. Nothing binds couples together more than physical intimacy.
If your marriage is already in danger of divorce, starting these tips now may not be possible or even the answer to your problems. However, I want to reiterate that it is never too late to build a strong relationship and bring it back from the brink of disaster. Work is needed on both sides, but you can learn how to win your spouse back no matter how difficult the situation is. Change the vicious cycle that started your marriage down the path of destruction.
Please know that couples do this everyday. Take the very important first step to find out what is needed to save your marriage or relationship and make it even stronger than you ever thought possible. Take care and rest easy knowing there is help for you. I wish I had this resource years ago. I strongly urge you to learn how to win your spouse back.
By Cathi Zimmerman
Keeping the Romance Alive in Marriage
by Katherine Kehler
“Honor Christ by submitting to each other” (Ephesians 5:21).
Marvin and I have been married for over 47 years. We have lived, slept, worked, played, prayed, traveled and eaten together for that many years.
Marvin travels at least 30 percent of each year – probably more. When he is away, he calls me most evenings and his voice still thrills me. I still think he has the most wonderful smile in the world, a calm, gentle voice and the friendliest eyes. And I still love his touch.
What do we do to keep the romance alive in our marriage?
First I’ll tell you what he does to keep our romance alive, then I’ll tell you what I do to keep our marriage interesting and exciting.
He does and says kind things. He tells me many times a day that he loves me and that I am beautiful. He kisses and hugs me a lot. At night, because he knows I like to take a bath, the bathwater is usually in the tub and the room is nice and warm before I get to the bedroom. He often brings me flowers. He opens doors for me. When in a group meeting he winks at me. I know I am special to him and it still gives me a thrill.
He supports and affirms me in the ministry God has called me to.
What I do to keep our interest in each other?
I cook his favorite meals - especially after a trip when he has been eating in restaurants for days. I keep his clothes in A-1 condition so he is always ready to meet anyone. I tell him he is handsome and looks sharp. I take care of many of the small housekeeping details at home so he doesn’t have to concern himself with them. I affirm him in leadership abilities, his wisdom and discernment.
Some evenings when we are at home alone and watching TV or a video; I will put my head on his lap. He likes me to touch him and kiss him when we are alone.
In public places, a touch or squeeze on the arm communicates, “I love you!” without saying a word. When he is relaxing and has his feet up, I never walk by without tickling his feet.
We have fun. We laugh a lot.
We have spiritual discussions. Over breakfast we usually discuss what God has pointed out to us during our quiet times and we pray together.
We work at trying to please each other rather than insisting on having our own needs met.
Our love for each other is still growing and glowing. You see, romance doesn’t start in the bedroom; it begins first thing in the morning. The way you greet each other in the morning, how you treat and talk to each other during the day. Then when you go to bed, it is natural to want to snuggle.
Try some of these tips – maybe they will help ignite or strengthen the romance in your marriage as well.
Fireproof Your Marriage Couple's Kit
Here's the product description:
Fireproof Your Marriage includes these six sessions:
Fireproof Your Marriage will challenge you to love better, to love first and to love for a lifetime! Founded on Biblical principles, this six session in-home study is a great way for you and your spouse to build and strengthen your marriage. The Fireproof Your Marriage study integrates movie clips from FIREPROOF, along with key Scriptures, thought-provoking questions and devotionals, including concepts from The Love Dare book. The Couple’s Kit includes a six-session DVD and two Participant’s guides.
Also makes a great wedding or anniversary gift!Fireproof Your Marriage includes these six sessions:
- He Said/She Said—appreciating the God-designed differences between men and women
- He First Loved Us—God’s love for you and how it enables you to love others
- Love for a Lifetime—marriage as a lifelong covenant
- Breaking Free—freeing yourself from temptations that can destroy a marriage
- Forgiveness—offering and receiving forgiveness
- A Better Way of Loving—unconditional love
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