Romantic Ideas For Busy Couples

Women, the moment they get married, act as if a rose tinted glass is glued to their eyes, – they want everything rosy and peachy for the rest of their lives. Even the women, who work and have lives of their own like to behave as if their world has suddenly become better because of matrimony. Working spouses or those who are career driven often find that, after a few years, the initial euphoria of togetherness has gone. Work keeps them busy all the while, they come home late, gobble whatever is available at home and fall asleep, only to be woken by the alarm the next day. Togetherness, spending time, those sweet nothings that both of them loved to exchange, are all gone for a toss as the mad rush to make a living and to be recognized in the fickle world of the rat race begins. Children, who the world thinks would bridge the gap between the couple, only tend to broaden the divide at times. What should such a career driven, on their toes, 24X7 couple do to keep the romance alive? You need to take it slow once in a while, put a break to your fast paced lifestyle and stop to smell the flowers. Here are some romance tips for busy couples.

Romantic Ideas For Busy Couples

Together We Work
Since you have promised to share everything – the good as well as the trying times, you might as well share work around the house too (yes!). Simple things like doing dishes, making dinner (the woman cooks and the man chops vegetables, for instance), folding up laundry, clearing clutter or doing away with all the junk in the house are only a few examples of the various things a couple can do together so as to be able to spend time with each other. You could run errands together; shop for groceries together, take your child to the paediatrician together and so on. While your hands are busy, you could talk about important topics that centre around the two of you or the family, what you are facing or going through at work and so on.

When You Love Them, Show Them
Most of us fail to establish the fact that communication – verbal and non-verbal – could make all the difference between a failed or a successful relationship. A simple squeeze of the hand, opening the door for her or him when getting into the car or into a restaurant, holding hands while walking in the crowd and so on will only prove to be a reaffirmation of your love for each other. Such habits, which you followed during your courtship years, should not end with the courtship period. This is often a complaint that women make about the men they marry – they forget to do those little things that matter to women most and realise it only when they have either lost a considerable amount of time or they have lost their women! Expressing love without the use of words is the easiest way to get it right for a relationship threatened by careers.

Stay In Touch
Learn this unwritten rule of keeping relationships alive – calling once or twice in a day while at work is not interference or being over concerned! Calling or texting more than five times in a day is, nevertheless, irritating for either of the spouse. Calling on your spouse once or twice in a day is solicitous without being overtly so or causing claustrophobia. It shows that though you are concerned about the other person, you are aware of and respectful of his or her personal space.

Date Me My Friend
So what if you have been married for the last five years? There is no time period after which you should stop celebrating married life. If life isn’t one long honeymoon, which is shared by two individuals, honeymoon in Paris has no meaning. You could just schedule a day for the two of you to be together, send your children to their grandparents’ place and spend some time together – be it a dinner at home or an outing for the weekend.

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Cyber-Dating Tips For Valentine's Day

It's official. February is finally here. The shortest month of the year has arrived, yet it can be the most exciting month for those in love as well as a lonely time for singles alone on Valentine's Day. To cheer up your spirits if you are single, I have come up with a list of ten tips for successful cyber-dating and for making February a month to remember for lovers and those in waiting.

Cyber-Dating Tip #1. If you are single, sign up for an online dating site. If you are already online, why not add a second or third site to your list. It is very common these days for singles to be active on 1-3 Internet dating sites at a time.

Cyber-Dating Tip #2. Find a singles party in your area. Many of the dating sites have dances and mixers scheduled all month long. Cupid.com has a Broken Arrow event on February 12th which is held in many cities nationwide and you can win a free trip to NY. NoWaitingDating.com has several events including the "Be My Valentine" dance/mixer in Studio City, CA where I will be personally signing my new book, launching on Valentine's week. Also in Los Angeles, Renee at RapidDating.com will be hosting a fabulous party on February 12th.

Cyber-Dating TIp #3. When in doubt, eat chocolate. Stop by and visit my favorite chocolatier, Madame Chocolat in Beverly Hills. On February 7th you can meet the Madame yourself. If you are not in Los Angeles, go to their site at madame-chocolat.com where you can order a Valentine's gift for yourself or your sweetheart.

Cyber-Dating Tip #4. Stop by Step Up Women's Network's co-ed Saint Valentine's Soiree on February 12th in Hollywood where you can celebrate or find cupid or at least a cocktail for a cause. The event is for those married, dating, single and/or ready to mingle. DJ Shy will be spinning the tunes and I will be on-site signing my book at this fun event. Check out their site at suwn.org

Cyber-Dating Tip #5. Be proactive in the month of May and initiate contact with potential mates online. If you are a woman who doesn't usually contact men, jump out of your comfort zone and just send five emails to men who pique your interest. You will be surprised to see how flattered they will be to receive your introductory note. If you are a man and normally send five emails a week, double it up to ten. Women will be more open to receiving your email as February can be a lonely month.

Cyber-Dating Tip #6. Dress in red or pink on every cyber-date for the month of February. Even if it isn't your color, it will be noticed by your Internet date and show that you could be in the mood for love.

Cyber-Dating Tip #7. Are you a pet person? Try signing up for doggydate.com where every doggy has their date. Even if you aren't attached on Valentine's Day, why should your puppy have to suffer? Take it a step further and stop by Sky Bark, a bar/lounge in downtown Los Angeles designed for dog owners who want to enjoy the city's nightlife without leaving their puppies at home.

Cyber-Dating Tip #8. If you are female, buy yourself some sexy lingerie in pink or red for the month. Even if you are going solo, you will feel better about yourself at night time napping in your new nightie instead of your old winter flannels. If you are officially dating someone you met online, surprise her with something sexy to wear that you both can enjoy.

Cyber-Dating Tip #9. Check out one of the many Meetup group events scheduled on February 14th and expand your social network. Perhaps an afternoon event can lead into an evening date. Check out their calendar at meetup.com.

Cyber-Dating Tip #10. Support Step Up Women's Network and buy my new book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online as a gift for a friend for Valentine's Day. A portion of the proceeds from all book sales will benefit this wonderful non-profit organization. Curl up by the fire and learn more about being successful as an online dater so perhaps next year you won't be solo on February 14th.

Written:by Julie_Spira

Get Your Dating Kicks With Wonderful First Date Ideas!

Dating is a big industry today and there are tons of methods you'll be able to find a date. You could go to a bar and get speaking to someone you like, meet somebody online through a chatroom, or maybe find profiles of potential matches on a dating website. However it is not meeting folk that poses an issue. You have access to thousands of single folk in the course of a week. No, it is agreeing on a great first date that is the issue, even if you do have a few first date ideas.

Everyone goes for dinner and a movie at some time or another. Not only is this date boring, it will hardly set your world alight. It is far from the memorable first date concepts that people look for, and you do spend half of your time in a darkened room with 50 other folk not chatting. First time dating can be a lot better than that! Have a look below for a few excellent concepts for a first date.

A Picnic - If you do need to go for good old normal dating then try putting a new spin on it. A blanket, good food and a bright day are all that you need for a good old picnic! Picnics are better first date concepts because they are daytime events so you don't have to spend hours on a bad date and it's better to talk with beautiful scenery and the tranquillity it brings. Please be responsible when choosing a picnic area choose places like public parks with reasonable traffic instead of isolated country picnics.

A holiday - A festival of art, music or drama can supply any UK dating couple with more than enough to do and talk about. People never select something like this for a first date, but it can be diverting and can help you to figure out whether you like each other and have enough in common for a second date.

A Funfair or Theme Park - Get back to your childhood and go to a theme park for the day, or a few hours if you have yet to talk correctly to the person. If you have tapped into UK dating online then you may very well have spoken to your date for a couple of hours. You will certainly have a good time and remember the date for a period of time to come.

Bowling - each city centre has a bowling alley now and its perfect for those people that could be shy and struggle to make conversation on first conferences. There's always plenty of eye contact in bowling and you can joke around with one another while blowing away those first date nerves.

These are only a few proposals and maybe they may give you some ideas of your own to wreck the mould and try somewhere new for your first date and make it as noteworthy as possible .

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Single at Holiday Time? the Ten-step Recipe for Turning Holiday Stress Into Joy

Thanksgiving is coming fast. Christmas. Hanukkah. Are you doomed to a miserable holiday if your relatives drive you crazy? What if you are just introducing your family to a serious date, someone who could be the One? Does Aunt Millie always cluck about what a shame it is that you are single or how your kids need a dad? Even if your family is a battlefield, or you are super stressed-out you can turn any holiday one of the best holidays you've ever had. Simply use my ten-step dating advice "secret sauce" for singles and single mothers that have to deal with problem relatives at the traditional family gatherings. This recipe for creating holiday joy is based on clinical experience and research evidence. Feel free to add or subtract your own condiments!

Ten Steps to Holiday Joy:

1. Shock your troublesome 'bad egg' relatives into being cordial or even likeable. List three things, even small things, like hair color or crossword puzzle ability, you truly appreciate about them. Work these things into your conversation in an authentic way at the beginning of the family visit. This will tend to shock these 'bad eggs' into being 'good eggs.'

2. Use the therapist's secret. When you're facing a battleaxe relative, win by refusing to fight. Accept comments about your appearance, weight or singlehood that used to upset you with a nod and say "That's the way you see it." This really throws them and saves you from a lot of holiday stress.

3. Create a tradition of personal sharing & gratitude. Around the dinner table ask your family members to talk about their favorite memories of the holiday, especially the blessings and small miracles they experienced. Have them share what they are most thankful for on this special day. Research shows that the happiest people are the ones who regularly express gratitude for what they have.

4. Stop worrying about looking good. Maybe you've just broken up with someone whom your parents liked. You feel loser-like, vulnerable and lonely coming to the family dinner. You worry about how you are dressed, the extra pounds you've put on and various other assorted silly ideas. Realize that the way they see you doesn't really matter. Underneath whatever they say, they probably love you to pieces. So forget about looking good. Your real job is to have fun and enjoy yourself.

5. Neutralize joy-kill fighting among your kids. If you're a single mom, get all of your kids, even your youngest, into helping to prepare for the holiday. Have them set the table, decorate, slice and dice. This key piece of family relationship advice will engage the children's attention, give them something to be proud of and stop any fighting.

6. Set up a positive bond when a new boy/girlfriend comes to a holiday dinner with your family. Beforehand, tell both the family and your friend all the "good news" about each other. Introduce discussion topics both have interest in. If you are the newbie in the family, bring an incredibly thoughtful gift for the occasion, ask questions and listen a lot. Appreciate any and all good things about the meal, the house and the family members and remember to tell them what you enjoyed!

7. Give the gift of quality time. A massage, a long walk-and-talk, a romantic getaway or a family trip involve giving of yourself -- your time and attention, which is the most valuable gift of all. Remember that time is fleeting; so enjoy your family while you still can. Remember, everyone is "on loan" here. They won't be here forever.

8. Bring spirituality back into the holiday. Pray, meditate or simply spend time in nature alone or with your loved ones. This offers you 'peace on earth' that is much more fulfilling than unwrapping a hundred gifts. Make it a new family tradition but if there is resistance to the idea, let it go. Simply say, "I'll just be upstairs meditating/praying for about 15 minutes. See you soon." And say it with love. Be the change that you would like to see in your family.

9. Do three random acts of kindness every day during the holiday season. Research has shown that unselfish acts of giving where you expect nothing in return are super good for your own health and mood. And who doesn't want to have good spirits during the usually stressful holidays?

10. Set your intention for this holiday. This is the single most important thing you can do to ensure that you will cope successfully with holiday stress. You can make up your mind to have a happy holiday, no matter what your family relationships are like. Make a positive affirmation like, ìThis is the happiest Thanksgiving or Christmas I've ever had.î Remember to use the present tense. Research has repeatedly shown the power of positive self-talk, which is what most of us call affirmations. Positive affirmations have been shown to lower stress and cortisol levels. People cope more easily when going into new social situations and are less likely to make downward social comparisons when they practice self-affirmations. Participants in one study that said self-affirmations before a new social encounter reduced their thoughts about being rejected compared with another group that focused on the party and who would be there.

As it is in other life situations like work and career, setting your intention, is the most important step. This holiday you will probably be just as happy as you decide to be. You can learn much more about the latest research on creating intentions especially in dealing with friends, frenemies and family in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Thanks to Dr. Diana Kirschner for these tips.

Psychologist, Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., developed a unique approach to dating that over the last 25 years has helped thousands of single women get the love they want. Her popular love workshops have been featured in major media around the world and she is a frequent guest on the Today Show. Dr. Diana's new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. Visit www.lovein90days.com for Dr. Diana's etips, blog, dating advice articles, daily affirmations and discussion forum.

Being Emotionally Available for Love

by Dr. David Hawkins- The Relationship Doctor

With the numbers of singles, and single-again, swelling, more and more people are bouncing in and out of relationships, including marriage, apparently learning little from mistakes in the past. Having been hurt, again and again, many are ready to resign their dating membership, withdraw their ad, abandon their Single’s groups and settle into the easy comfort of their apartment with a bowl of popcorn and a plasma TV.

Why are singles retreating at increasing rates from the Dating Scene? What’s going wrong, and how can we fix it? In a sentence—we haven’t learned how to date smart, which includes being completely ready to date in the first place.

One of the first tasks of any serious dater is to determine if they and their date is really emotionally ready and available for love. This is no easy task, since most feel eager for a relationship.

Any of you who have dated in recent years know there is a vast difference between those with “the urge to merge,” those hidden behind a brick wall of distance and deception, who are scared to death to let themselves be vulnerable at all in a relationship, and those emotionally and spiritually ready for transparency and love.

But, how can you discern the difference? This is the critical question.

One recent response to our Message Board voices some of these concerns:

I have been in several relationships that I just ended abruptly. Each of them said that I am not willing to give enough to make the relationship work. I am very afraid of getting hurt, that is why I do not want to go too far. But now I realize the fact that I can not go on for long like this. How do I know when to let go and love someone freely and stop thinking from the beginning how bad I will feel if the relationship does not work? I am really confused and want to know how I can change things for the better.”

Sadly, this writer is experiencing many of the concerns typical of those seeking a love relationship. Let’s explore some of your concerns, expanded upon in my forthcoming book, Are You Really Ready for Love?, and what you can do to protect yourself from future hurt.

First, listen carefully to the feedback you’re receiving. Anytime we get a message over and over, from multiple sources, there’s a good chance there’s some truth in those messages. In your case, they’re saying you don’t give enough, and you add that you’re afraid of being hurt. I suggest participating in counseling to explore old unresolved hurts that may be hampering your willingness to take risks in dating.

Second, guard yourself from the urge to merge. Having gotten out of a serious relationship, and still reeling from pain, many rush into a new relationship with the hope of anesthetizing their pain by entering into a new, euphoric love relationship. The problem is, every time a relationship ends, we need to take time not only to grieve that loss, understanding what went wrong and what to learn from it. Go slowly, allowing the experience to impact you.

Third, it is natural to fear being hurt, but these risks can be managed with good judgment and discernment. Each of us needs to be an astute judge of character. When we trust and untrustworthy individual, we’re likely to get hurt. But, we can learn to trust only trustworthy people. This is the way any of us know how much of ourselves to share with another. Can they be trusted with our words, our emotions, our love? The old principle, test, trust, test, trust, applies to each of our lives.

Fourth, after discerning who can be trusted, by judging their character, we take risks. In every relationship we take the risk of being hurt, knowing we can minimize those risks, and also knowing the incredible payoffs when we find someone worthy of sharing our lives with. When we refuse to take risks, we remain safe, but painfully alone.

Finally, as you work on healing old wounds, developing a good judge of character, and a willingness to take risks, you’re probably prepared to enter the dating arena. Being really ready for love means you’ve done your work, are emotionally and spiritually stable, and know what you’re looking for in a date. Additionally, you’ve prepared yourself to be an attractive date yourself.

Entering into the arena of dating and love involves risks—but these risks can be managed. We don’t have to blindly enter a dating relationship, crossing our fingers and hoping we don’t get hurt. As we prepare ourselves, growing stronger and wiser, we gain self-confidence and trust that God will guide us through this challenging, yet exciting journey of our lives.

Tips: 10 Must have on online dating

Have you ever thought of meeting people online? If so, meeting people online can be great fun. Online dating has given us the opportunity from our comforts of our own home to search for that someone. Let your common sense prevail when searching online and do not let your instincts lessen when making your decision. Please see the dating tips below which will make your search safe, a lot of fun and most importantly successful.

*Dating Tip #1

Most common form of introduction would be to say" Please Allow me to introduce myself" I use this one myself, it helps to break the ice and it is polite yet confident. Have you ever tried to introduce yourself in a night club or a bar? I am sure you have. Do you say "Hi my name is"... my telephone number and my address is such and such... No I thought not. When you introduce yourself on http://Iwantudating.com, please use common sense and do not reveal any personal details about yourself. This is one great thing about online dating. Take as much time as you need in getting to know someone before being comfortable enough in revealing all there is to know about you. So make sure you are not pressured.

* Dating Tip #2

Do not lie about yourself on your profile. People will eventually find out you are having them on.

* Dating Tip #3

Do take the time to complete the entire profile on the registration form - Any unanswered questions say you could not be bothered or are hiding something. Try and complete the form as much as possible to let any potential contact know the real you.

* Dating Tip #4

Have you ever heard of the phrase "Honesty is the best policy" I am sure you have. Honesty is admired yet dishonesty is being disrespectful. Tell the people you are emailing your true intentions and it should be the correct path to successful dating. Always remember, that you must use your common sense and judgement. I know it is not easy to judge who you are contacting on the other side so please assess who you are being honest with.

* Dating Tip #5

Now here is good dating advice. Add a nice photo. A photo of you. A smiling photo. A smiling photo up close. A recent smiling photo up close! Make sure your photos are recent preferably less than 6 months old) and that you are happy. Members with photos are likely to get up to 9 times more replies than members without any photo image attached to their profile.

* Dating Tip #6

Do not talk or brag about your ex. There is nothing more of a turn off for people to hear about your previous relationships. Instead focus on what you already have. The past is often best forgotten.

* Dating Tip #7

Always try and reply to people's messages and reply in a reasonable amount of time, not weeks later. If you are serious about dating, you are serious about replying. They have taken the time to talk or write to you and they may be really nice.

* Dating Tip #8

Has it ever happened to you where you are talking to a stranger and you are wondering what they look like? Our brains tend to create an image in our mind of what someone might look like. It is only our natural instinct to do so. If you ever meet or met the person they did not look anything like you had in your mind? Am I right? Of Course. Unfortunately none of us are psychic so I suggest you you ask for a picture and you can feel more comfortable with whom you are emailing.

* Dating Tip #9

Always and I mean always meet your date in a mutual place during the day which both of you are comfortable with. Always advise a friend or a relative of where you are going and leave a contact number. Do not leave any Drinks unattended. Unfortunately and it must be said that we live in cruel and sick world. Please if you have an alcoholic drink then please drink moderately.

* Dating Tip #10

Be Realistic. Most fairytale stories do not have a happy ending. If they sound perfect fit , it does not necessarily mean send the wedding Invitations out yet. If this date does not work out do not worry it will not be your last first date. If it does not lead to a next date then pack your bags and move on to the next potential candidate on your list. Do not be put off.

Remember there are plenty of fish in the Sea. So make sure you choose wisely.


Thanks to Norbert Lukacsi for this helpul tips.